Brienne writes

If you don't time block it or put it in your calendar, it'll probably be forgotten. That's what happened to me. Said I'll do something.  Clean forgotten about it. Only now do I remember because I looked at my calendar and I have set an appointment with this person. And there's something I need to do. Taking time now to go and get it done. To me: Time block it.  Put it in your calendar!

If you're not happy where you are now, wherever you go, you won't be happy. My current state is bliss. A roof over my head. Enough money to spend. Doing what I love teaching children. Weekday mornings for hiking, bouldering, working out and improving my physical health. I have clean water to drink too. And healthy food is easy to find.  It's sure nice over here. I know I'm more fortunate than many others.  Because of my mental headspace. Because of gratitude.  It sure will be nice over there too.  Are you happy with your current place? What can you be grateful for? What's nicer over there that you have here now?

Ali Abdaal have been talking about finding your niche before expanding into other areas.  I didn't listen. So many folks on Twitter are singing the same tune. Nah, I don't want to. I read Purple Cow today. And the message I got is... In order to be seen, you need to be different. You need to make a remarkable product in your given niche. Okay, I'm listening now. 

You say you want things but how much do you want it? Do you really want it enough to put in the work? I remember wanting a degree but not wanting to put in the work. I wanted it to magically fall into my lap with hard work, but not that much hard work iykwim. I complained to my parents whenever I had assignment due dates on festivities. I remember feeling fomo one time and tried to have the best of both worlds by having a glass of wine in one hand and my psychology textbook in another. Obviously, you know what happened. I'll miss deadlines or be so overwhelmed with the assignments and whine to Mom.  "Who asked you to get the degree?" she'll ask.  "Who's forcing you to do it?"  "No one. No one is forcing me.. But it's hard. I can't do it." Eventually, it came to a point where I either gave up or keep going. Did I want the degree? Yes.  If I gave up now, will I want to pursue the degree in the future?  Yes I would. So I pulled up my big ...

for the girls who never feel like they're good enough give this a watch. In fact, I'm just going to embed the video from my favourite portion.   But please watch the full video for full effect. . . . . Her words made tears well up in my eyes. I'm a project.  Day 1? Yes. I'm doing it all over again because I'm still not where I want to be.  The perfect body? Yes, tell me about it. I haven't gotten it and I'm putting off holidays, time for suntanning (my favourite actually), time for doing a whole load of stuff because I haven't achieved the body that I want ): Which reminds me of all the times I stopped myself from going for a tan during a staycation because I don't have the perfect body yet ):  Bad memories.  I'm not worthy of love, admiration, praise, friendship because I'm not beautiful.  Like Linda , I always bring gifts to my friends because I feel like showing up is just not good enough ): My presence is never good enough. I'm abou...

How would you treat your best friend if she was stuck in a slump and you wanted to help her? Would you talk to her positively everyday? Sit with her, listen to her, make sure she has her basic needs met.  Start a workout routine with her.  Get her to do things she enjoy.  Dance around with her.  Lay in bed and do masks together. Just chill and ask her what she likes to do and do them. You would? Yeah, she's you. You're your own best friend.  Ask her what she likes and treat her nice but motivate her to live her life to the fullest.  Go get it Bree. 

A friend XY said today, "You're meeting the whole world huh" and it got me thinking. Just a few days ago, I was telling my partner that I felt like I didn't have any friends.  How do you define friends? To me, friends are people you want to keep close by. People who matter. People who you wish would flourish and be happy. People who you'd want to help out when they are in trouble.  Is this your definition of friends too? How do you define friends?