Brienne writes

  That's a wee bit of how I feel right now. Sad that's it's over. But a hell lot of excitement, hopefulness, curiosity of what's to come next. Hi, we haven't had a formal introduction. I'm Brienne. I'm from Singapore.  I became unemployed today. I've been working since I was a teenager.  No grad trips, no month long holiday or a hiatus of any sort.  I don't mean short week trips or a 10-day trip.  In fact, my longest trip of any kind was exactly 10 days. I'm not talking about taking a holiday.  But I'd love to just be unemployed for a while and just chill. Or like what Kevin Kelly said, you need to spend some time just goofing off, doing nothing .  Take it from Kevin Kelly pic.twitter.com/2NrVOo7adu — Paul Millerd (@p_millerd) May 11, 2023 So, I'm going to just do that for a while.  --- If you're from Twitter, say hi! Glad to see you here.  Send me a dm or comment below.  Have a beautiful life! 

Paul was 33 when he started his pathless path. I'll be 32 in a few days time.  Then 35 in 3 years time.  Wouldn't it be awesome? What would be? Taking a leap of faith and seeing where that takes me. The unknown is pretty scary but what's scarier is remaining rooted to the ground, unhappy and thinking you're stuck but you're the only one stopping yourself from getting up and moving.  You're not a plant Brienne. And happy to have made that realisation I don't know when. I'm the only one I know on this path right now. Other than my Dad who has been living the path.  I knew a long time ago that I'll somehow be on this path. Many years back, when my Dad was starting out, I remember asking him, can I join you? And he said, "Go get a couple years of experiences before you come back and talk. Because how do you coach others if you haven't been through trials and tribulations?" Never thought I'll be here . Somewhat there. Forging my own pat...

Read something interesting from Paul Millerd's Boundless newsletter this morning.  He writes,  In the book, the author W. Timothy Gallwey shares his approach for thinking about improvement through the lens of tennis.  He argues that everyone has two selves: Self 1, the "teller", and Self 2 the "doer". It is the relationship between these two selves that determines how well people are able to translate "knowledge into effective action." This is what he calls the "inner game.". ...the message is quite clear: we spend far too much time in self 1 mode and struggle to let go enough to shift into self 2 mode.  The problem is that you can't just "do" doing. We have to find ways to loosen the grip that self 1 has over our actions. Which is really hard because most of us are brought up in cultures that tell us that life is pretty much about avoiding bad outcomes, aiming at "good" goals, and trying harder when we fail.  Farnam...

Curiosity got me looking up Brian Grazer because Paul Millerd mentioned (in the Not Overthinking podcast ) he took Curious Conversations from him. --- From A Career in Curiosity | Brian Grazer | Talks at Google youtube video .  Some highlights I'd love going back to:  "How did you have that kind of healthy sense of entitlement or chutzpah?" Brian Grazer: "My grandmother helped that a lot."  From the Merriam-Webster dictionary,  chutzpah  means supreme self-confidence. Brian Grazer mentioned that though he often got F's and occasional D's in his report card, his grandmother often told him he was special. She told him "You're going to find your way through this. Think big, be big." And he tried to live through those words and integrate them into his sense of self-worth. ( link ) --- Brian Grazer: "It's a very important metric to me, how I feel, energetically, towards somebody. Because you think about it. You feel it, that truth, a...

When people are asked what they do, they often tell you about their job without talking about what other things they do in life. Work has taken up so much of our time and our lives that our identities are closely tied to work.   As mentioned in Ali Abdaal's Reimaging Our Relationship with 'Work' podcast episode  with Paul Millerd ,  " The question “what do you do?” has become such a ubiquitous question that we often feel under pressure to provide a satisfying answer.  It can feel uncomfortable when we are unable to define exactly what our occupation is to other people. We often feel the need to justify why we have pursued a particular path because so much of our identities in modern society are tied up with the idea of work. Many people are just workers – the one decision about jobs or careers dictates everything in their life. A better way to ask the “what do you do?” question would be to rephrase this as “how do you spend your time?”" The next time someone as...